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Technique Of The Month – April 2015 – A Balancing Act

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Your Sense of Balance is a tremendously powerful instrument. It’s the instrument you use to calibrate your mind to achieve greatness or self-destructive sabotage. It’s the instrument that can bring you to personal mastery, or total self-destruction. Your Sense of Balance rules your self-esteem, your self-worth, your self-confidence, your self-love and self-respect.

This month’s technique of the month is designed to help you tap into your Sense of Balance and consciously use it to achieve positive results.

In order to get a better understanding of how powerful this instrument truly is, I have drawn two pyramids representing the power you have at creating a reality of bliss or one that is a total miss, to say the least.

Consciously using your Sense of Balance

Step 1: Awareness

I can hear some of you saying “A 7th sense? I thought we only had an extra 6th sense?”

Yes, you have more than six senses – twelve to be exact. These twelve senses comprise the physical and metaphysical abilities you possess. Once you are consciously aware of your senses beyond the five physical senses, you tap into your full intuitive abilities.

To start, focus on your 7th sense, the Sense of Balance, which follows your 6th Sense of Imagination (sometimes referred to as ‘intuition’).

Let’s start with a simple exercise. Since most adults learn through association, you’ll want to use the physical senses you are most familiar with to initiate a connection with your Sense of Balance. Focus on one of your physical senses (sight, sound, smell, taste and touch) as you follow the technique below.

Ask yourself these questions using different senses:

Sight: How far is the nearest lamp to you?

Hearing: Listen to something near you and find out how close you think the sound is or where it’s coming from?

Taste: If you’re eating something is it too salty, too sugary or just right?

All these are examples of using your senses to balance to calibrate, or more importantly, compare aspects of your reality. Hence, your Sense of Balance is active even though you may not be aware of it.

Next, you’ll want to go beyond the physical and use the part of your mind that balances within your inner world, such as your confidence and self-esteem.

Step 2: Choosing what to balance

Now that you’ve completed step 1, you see how your mind balances thing consciously and you can begin to direct your awareness to what you want to ‘re-balance.’ Trust me, it’s amazing.

You’ll need a piece of paper and a pen or pencil. Write down the beliefs that you have about yourself in these three categories: self-worth, self-esteem, and self-love.

Here are some examples:

Self-Worth: I don’t deserve/ The world would be a better place if I were in charge

Self-Esteem: Others are smarter than me/ I am smarter than everyone

Self-Confidence: I won’t be able to/ I can do whatever I want

Onto step 3!

Step 3: Re-balance and harmonize

The trick to effective balance is always harmony. Write out a new association with your inner world to re-calibrate your inner world to work for you, not against you!

Self-worth: I deserve as much success as anyone

Self-esteem: I will learn how to succeed at…

Self-Confidence: I am capable of adapting to….

As you continue to use your Sense of Balance consciously, you raise your level of self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem AND intuitive ability! What you are doing is similar to re-writing a script… except the script is for your life. Like the director in a movie, you direct a whole new path to create and manifest in your life.

Practice this technique for five consecutive days. The more you exercise the conscious use of your Sense of Balance, the stronger your abilities become.

As you begin to uncover and tap into your full intuitive abilities with your lost senses, you’ll discover how to manifest your true desires.

© Alain Jean-Baptiste in all media

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Technique of the Month – February 2015 – 7 Shades Of Intimacy –

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The technique this month is on “Recognizing And Working With 7 Shades Of Intimacy”. As we get closer to Valentine’s day and Family Day its important to remember to develop a more intimate relationship with not only those we love but with reality itself. A month of magic, a month for love, intimacy is what creates the chemistry between you and the reality you co-create.

Take advantage of this month’s energy by understanding how you can consciously develop a more profound intimate relationship with yourself, others and reality itself.

With love and peace,

Alain

The Shades

#1. Love: The number one component on my list is of course love. It’s the big L word, the “numero uno”. It’s like the chemical reaction of the sun constantly regenerating itself with two simple elements, giving and receiving of each other simultaneously. It is the fusion reaction of not only giving or receiving, but the simultaneous reaction of it.

#2. Vulnerability: By definition it means, “to be capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt”[1]. Wounding is caused by pain and impact. The reason this is important, is that it allows you to know that you have impact on someone and that others have impact on you. This is the first step in personal mastery and allows you to be able to start building self-awareness.

#3.Trust: This is about your ability to cope with these components on your self and others. To rely on the fact that you can allow yourself to be close to someone you love. To trust that you can love and be loved, care and be cared for. To be trusting is to be confident in someone else. If you are confident enough, you can allow yourself to be vulnerable with yourself and others. To trust that you can allow yourself to be vulnerable in being warm toward someone you love, or are tender with yourself or someone else. To have the belief, the ability, and the confidence that you can have an intimacy with your reality, with someone you love and God/Goddess/All that is.

#4. Warmth: I have spoken about warmth on many occasions because it is a sense that you have (the 10th sense). Warmth is crucial in children and adult development. If you’re not sure, try being cold to the one you love and see how long it will last. Most people mix warmth with sex, which does have warmth in it, but is not the only source of it. Build your sense of warmth by increasing your brains elasticity by developing more behaviors like kindness, hospitality, affection, enthusiasm, and affection.

#5. Caring: This can be seen, heard, or felt by the act of being close, tender, trusting, loving, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to work with all the other components.

#6. Closeness: This is allowing yourself to be touched. Not just physically but emotionally, and spiritually. To be touched by what you are conceiving/perceiving. To allow yourself to “let someone in” and to be close enough to let yourself be vulnerable and tender with yourself and/or someone else. To allow yourself to trust enough so that you have someone get close to you, and for you to get close to someone you love and care for.

#7. Tenderness: Tenderness comes from tender, a noun that means “a person who tends; a person who attends to or takes charge of someone or something”[2].

Now you can be tender with yourself by being compassionate instead of hard. As men we are taught (old school) that you have to be tough and not show any weakness. To build a relationship you have to be tender. In order to build confidence, you need to have compassion towards yourself and thus need warmth, the main ingredient of compassion.

If you want more techniques and tools on discovering how to enhance your brains ability to create, recognize and work with intimacy in the various types of relationship in your life or to have more intimacy in your creation of reality you may want to look at purchasing my book or DVD on the 7 Lost Senses™ or my 6 hour HD training on the same subject

[1] Definition of trust: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/vulnerability
[2] Definition of tender: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/TENDER
Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.
– Rollo May –

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Appreciation Vs Expectation

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“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes instantly.” ~ Tony Robbins

I recently watched a video by Tony Robbins where he talked about attraction and appreciation and it made me want to explore that topic a bit, especially since it is Valentine’s Day. A lot of people automatically think of romantic connections when they think of attraction but this concept can apply to almost any relationship. What attracts you to certain people? And what attracts them to you? His belief is that if you want to be more attractive to more people then you have to make a conscious decision to live in a beautiful state of mind.

Think about the people in your life. Who do you enjoy spending the most amount of time with? Most likely the people you like and want to spend time with are happy, positive and generous people. If someone is negative and constantly complaining about everything, you probably won’t want to spend much time with them. People gravitate to those who are sincere, optimistic, playful and loving. In my experience, the happiest people are the ones that consistently practice gratitude in their daily lives.

Appreciation is a mindset. It doesn’t mean that your life is perfect, rather it is the ability to see the good even through difficult times. To be grateful for what you do have in your life at any given moment. It is letting go and not obsessing over things you can’t control. Instead, change your expectations and focus on the things you can control and the positive things you can do. Once you start to see and appreciate all the love that surrounds you, I guarantee it will multiply and attract more of it into your life.

Essentially it is the law of attraction; like attracts like. So in order to attract more people into your life, the key is to start by appreciating the people and things you currently have. When you are grateful for everything you do have, you will continue to attract more positive things into your life.  As I mentioned earlier, the happiest people I know are also the ones that appreciate everything they have. They focus on the positive and things they can control and let go of the things they have no control over. People naturally gravitate towards them because being around them is an enjoyable experience. So the ability to practice gratitude is essential to being more attractive to others. It starts with you and your mindset. The more positive you are, the more people will gravitate towards you.

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Investing and your brain: Why we hit the panic button | Reuters Money

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Here is an article I found really interesting on Reuters.com
Investing and your brain: Why we hit the panic button
Aug 25, 2011 10:08 EDT
Weathering the storm has lost popularity points with investors in the latest round of market volatility, prompting some to wonder if panic and irrationality are the name of the new game.

Investors pulled $31.3 billion out of U.S. equity funds in the two weeks ending August 10, reaching outflow levels not seen since the stock market collapse of March 2009.

Finding the reason behind that seemingly irrational sell-off may require more analysis than most economists or stock market watchers can perform. Perhaps the motivations behind our investing decisions are actually a question better put to neuroscience.

“Certainly, economic fundamentals play a valuable role in the value of assets and the prices that things trade for. But when individuals are making buy-and-sell decisions they can be very influenced on what is going on in their brains, including emotions,” says Lisa Kramer, associate professor of finance at the Rotman School of Management at the University of Toronto. Kramer has done extensive research on how human emotion — specifically in relation to seasonal depression — influences financial decisions and financial markets.

“We’re prone to weighing recent information more heavily than more historical information. The fact that we’ve just been through a financial crisis in the last couple of years is looming large on our minds,” she says. “When we see things start to go south again in the market, we go to that bad place in our minds and I think that can drive us to act impulsively more so than we would have a few years ago before we lived through this kind of volatile period.”

This historical hangover, coupled with the understanding of the body’s risk/reward system, has lead researchers to hypothesize that an investor’s urge to buy or sell at the wrong time could be a by-product of our neural processes overriding reason.

Kramer explains if one were to do a functional MRI analysis while an investor was in the process of making a financial decision — let’s say whether to buy a stock or a bond — “you’ll find that the part of the brain that’s activated when somebody makes the risky choice is called the nucleus accumbens (NACC) and it’s activated when people are experiencing pleasurable, things like food or sex. The part of the brain that’s activated when people make the safe choice is called the anterior insula and it’s more associated with pain and fear,” she says.

Richard Peterson, M.D., a former quantitative trader and managing partner at MarketPsych, agrees, adding investors are still experiencing anger and mistrust of the financial services industry.

“When people feel disgust, it activates the anterior insula. That area of the brain is known to prevent risk taking,” he says. “Since the crisis began, no more money has entered the market. In fact, it has stayed out entirely. People are not reinvesting, they’re feeling disgusted, our data shows that, and it appears to be through this neural mechanism.”

Peterson writes in his paper “The Neuroscience of Investing: FMRI of the reward system,” that the brain’s reward system, connected to one of the brain’s five dopamine pathways, coordinates the search for, pursuit and evaluation of potential reward. The activation of this system, when it comes to collective investing, could have broader implications for financial markets and the economy.

Activation of the reward system results in particular types of behavior and emotion, characterized among investors as greater risk-taking, increased impulsivity, enhanced positive feelings, and greater physical arousal. Loss avoidance behavior and emotions are timid, protective, fearful, and risk-averse. When activated among large groups, reward approach behavior can impact the economy as a whole, leading to stock market bubbles, increased consumer purchasing, higher investment risk-taking, and an increased use of credit. Loss avoidance, on the other hand, is seen when people decrease borrowing, sell off assets, and report decreased financial confidence (and even fear.)

In terms of behavioral finance and investing, Franklin D. Roosevelt was spot on when he made the now-famous quote “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself,” says Brian Bruce, CEO of Hillcrest Asset Management and managing director of the Center for Investment Research.

“The volatility is of our own making. The thing we fear the most, because we fear it, we create it,” he says. “The frustrating part is you can create this self-fulfilling prophecy. Even if we aren’t headed for a recession, if everyone is scared to death — consumers stop spending, businesses stop hiring and stop investing – than you’ll create one. If you just act normally, things will be fine.”

Advisers are experiencing the by-product of these emotions, even for clients in a defensive portfolio position. When it seemed the markets were on an upswing earlier this year, investors were hungry for gains.

“Over the past six months, I’ve had to explain to more clients why they need to stay defensive rather than chasing returns. I can lock in a return of eight percent at some point this year which could turn into a loss of seven percent in two weeks,” says Jeff Link, partner at Guardian Capitol Advisors LLC. “I have more conversations with clients where I’m trying to get them to stay the path we’ve laid out for them even though it looks like we may be wrong.”

So, what does this type of research mean for the financial services industry? Understanding an investor’s fight or flight mentality is integral to advisers, writes Gregg S. Fisher, a CFA and CFP, in his paper “Behavioral finance from a practitioner’s viewpoint.””For those of us focused on the risk side of the equation, understanding the behavioral component of the decision-making process is essential to our understanding of market dynamics – particularly in periods of financial stress like the past decade, in which we saw two equity market corrections of approximately 50 percent each,” he writes.

For investors? There are periods of market volatility and uncertainty that will determine prices, but rational analysis of fundamentals will eventually prevail. Tune out the market chatter and listen to your adviser. “The markets are overly driven by emotion and those that will profit will understand that they need to take that emotion out of it and stay calm. Invest on the facts,” says Bruce.

Just make sure you and your adviser are on the same page, Peterson advises. “If you don’t resonate with your adviser, you’ll jump off the [investment] plan even if it’s solid. If you don’t buy into them or don’t trust them, you’ll panic when markets are down 23 percent.”

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Technique of the Month – Acceptance

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Mystical Technique of the Month:
Acceptance

As we celebrate a truly honourable day today by remembering all those that have fought for the freedoms we enjoy, I thought of doing my technique of the month on acceptance which of course is the end result of mourning, bereavement and grief or that feeling of having lost something or someone. Instead of a podcast, I have outlined the technique on this page so that you may read it immediately.

The components leading to acceptance in time of loss

Impact – Shock: This is the stage where you receive the news, you receive the information which ultimately leads to the other steps you are going to be feeling over time. It is the shock or the sudden surprise that shows you another reality which you where not aware of a couple of seconds ago. It is the stage where reality all of a sudden changes and is no longer real. It is the stage at which your confidence about a belief you held is all of a sudden shaken to its foundation. This can be true with any type of sudden shift in perception and belief.

Denial: At this stage the reality has not set in yet. The impact is so swift and dramatic that you don’t and can’t believe the perception you are presented with or are experiencing. You’ve just heard the news and your sense of balance (your 7th sense) completely goes askew. Your sense tries to balance what it knows from the past and attempts to make sense of it with the information you’ve just received. The speed at which the event you’ve just experienced, the news you just got or the thing your mind is being asked to compute is very overwhelming to you, and so it decides that it’s not true or “it simply can’t be”, hence the denial. It’s not that you don’t want to accept it as some people often think, “you simply you can’t accept the fact that …”, it’s that the facts in your mind cannot be accepted because the truth of it would break the integrity of your system and cause you to go into meltdown or worse. At this point, it is an attempt for your mind to keep itself stable until it is able to process new information that will allow it to cope with the sudden shift in expectation.

Anger: As you start realizing the possibility of the loss, or the illusion you have is gone, you start to immediately feel a sense of loss of value. You may get angry because you have just realized you’re going to be alone now, or that they or something left you. You begin to feel an intense loss within you now and the anger starts to set in. You may blame others, believe it’s unfair, or blame yourself for something you may have done or omitted to do.

Solutions at this stage: Respect yourself by being honest about your feelings and find a way to express it constructively. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Allow yourself to regain that sense of value you believe you lost by the loss. By regaining that perception of loss of value it will bring you that much closer to acceptance.

Bargaining: At this stage you start negotiating, bargaining, for the person to come back or want to offer some type of exchange if they stay. You start making promises that if someone or something comes back you will be better, you will do better. It seems to be a last attempt at wanting to hang on to something or someone.

Bargaining usually takes the form of:
• If only I had done, sough x sooner
• What if X
• If only X

Solution at this stage: Allow yourself to deal with the emotions when they come up. Like anger, allow yourself to express yourself in a constructive way so as to honour your feelings and then process them in a natural way.

Depression: after bargaining this stage comes because you start feeling powerless and the anger having set in you start feeling that you have no right to be angry. From an intuitive stand point and from experience I see that this is also the stage where you start feeling as if the person has left your resonance, your field of vibration. If they were a part of you, that part now seems gone and so you are left to feel empty and alone.

Solution at this stage: Allow yourself to step out of this mood by meeting new people, learning new things and rediscovering yourself. This process does take some time and has to follow its natural course. Allow yourself to deal with the anger so that you can go towards acceptance.

Acceptance: This is the level that allows you to feel that you can move on. It is when you have finally stepped out of that energy of loss and have begun to be able to cope with the reality that has changed. It feels as if the pass was a dream and you woke up to something new. It is the stage at which when you look back you can now perceive it differently and are able to be able to focus once again. Acceptance usually comes with understanding and understanding is usually what enables you to deal with the pain of loss.

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