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What Steven Spielberg Can Teach Us: Listen to the Whispers of Your Intuition

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What Steven Spielberg Can Teach Us: Listen to the Whispers of Your Intuition

Intuition: in a way, it’s like a super power. But unlike radioactive spider bites and magic hammers, this is one that is actually attainable to those willing to work to hone it. It can range from that prickle on the back of your neck that says “danger,” to that warm tingle that tells you you’re about to make the right decision. The ability to make split-second decisions based on your “gut feeling” can help guide you in everyday life, your career, tricky negotiations, and social situations alike.

Intuition is a hard thing for many people to peg down. Because it’s not very widely understood, many people make the mistake of believing that it is something that needs to be acquired, the way one would attend a class to acquire knowledge that they didn’t previously possess. This is a misconception, though that’s not to say that learning doesn’t come into the equation. The truth is that intuition is something that every person naturally possesses. To harness it, you must train your mind to listen to its own intuitive side.

Once you learn to listen to your intuition and use it to further your goals, you open up a whole world of possibilities. Problems that previously seemed not to have solutions are suddenly easily dealt with; options you never knew you had become obvious choices. How you perceive the world changes, and as a result you are empowered to change your life. But why take it from us? Let Steven Spielberg (yes, that Steven Spielberg) explain it himself:

In case you missed it, the whisper that Spielberg is describing is his intuition, which guides his creative process. And considering that he’s the most successful director in history, with two “best director” Oscars to his name and a plethora of spellbinding films in his repertoire, it clearly hasn’t steered him wrong. If you’ve been hesitant about developing your intuition, consider this an example of the kind of success a person can realise if only they listen to the whisper of their heart.

In the following clip, Spielberg describes his intuition in greater detail (it begins at the five-minute mark):

“[For] the first 25 years of our lives, we are trained to listen to voices that are not our own… And at first, the internal voice I needed to listen to was hardly audible, and it was hardly noticeable — kind of like me in high school. But then I started paying more attention, and my intuition kicked in. And I want to be clear that your intuition is different from your conscience. They work in tandem, but here’s the distinction: Your conscience shouts, ‘here’s what you should do,’ while your intuition whispers, ‘here’s what you could do.’ Listen to that voice that tells you what you could do. Nothing will define your character more than that. Because once I turned to my intuition, and I tuned into it, certain projects began to pull me into them, and others, I turned away from.”

What he describes here—the way that your intuition tells you what you could do—is essential to harnessing the gift that you already have. All you need to do is learn how to listen to that voice, and you’ll find that, just like Spielberg, you’ll be drawn down more lucrative paths, while being able to recognize that other paths will be fruitless for you.

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September 2016 Newsletter – Technique Of The Month – Superior Autobiographical Memory –

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Recently, I was faced with a challenge. Every month I strive to bring you a great new technique to enhance your daily lives, but this month I was stuck. Being September, my mind went to back-to-school topics such as organizational techniques and time management. But the truth is, I’ve done those before. What could I offer that would truly be helpful? That would have substance?

While I tried to puzzle this out, I was facing another challenge entirely. I have a lot of projects on the go—including my new book, Lead Intuitively, as well as plenty of travelling abroad—and I was slowly starting to lose my mind—or rather, my memory. Things were slipping my mind and I had to refocus myself on remembering important details. And then came a “eureka!” moment: that both of these challenges had the same solution.

The Technique of the Month

Superior Autobiographical Memory

Your memory is a powerful thing, not to be taken for granted. It is a fundamental tool vital in your daily life, whether personal or professional. And one of the latest marvels of the brain to be discovered is that some people can harness their memories in vivid detail, even years later. This skill is called Superior Autobiographical Memory. Below is a video interview with a woman who possesses this astounding ability; here are a few things to keep in mind as you watch.

Anatomy of Excellence

I thought that this month, I would begin to reveal to you some of my Jedi mind tricks—starting with how to slow down time. One question I’m often asked is, “How are you able to read people so quickly?” Well, it’s easier than it looks. I’ll teach you how to dissect, analyze, evaluate, and read people on a deep level without the use of intuitive abilities.

Take a Deep Breath and Relax Your Mind

Many years ago, a friend of mine—an experienced military sniper—taught me that the first step to slowing down time is to control your breathing. Don’t worry! This technique has nothing to do with shooting a gun. Being a sniper means so much more than that—it’s about being able to read a situation, understand body language, and make split second judgements based on your observations. These skills are just as vital in business and in life, and the key to mastering them is controlling your perception of how time passes. By controlling your breathing, calming your mind, and focusing on behavioural patterns and non-verbal cues, you can read between the lines in an instant.

Before watching the below video, take as much time as you need to relax your mind. See what you can read from the interview about how these remarkable people are able to perfectly recall events that happened decades before. I’ve included a few of my own notes below for you to compare against your own findings.

My notes:

  • Syntax (1:10) “I can feel it,” i.e. she is manifesting memories that feel as real as when they happened.
  • Eye movement (1:12) After saying “I can feel it,” her eye goes down to the right—a gesture associated with recalling memories.
  • Mannerism and eye movement (1:44) Look at her pupils and see how stares into thin air, coming into focus on the specific date that she’s been provided as though she can see it in front of her.
  • Sequence (1:45- 2:00) Look at her hand gestures as she describes the sequence she uses to organize the dates and events in her mind.
  • “I just see it, it’s just there” (4:29) Although the doctor being interviewed calls this an unsatisfactory response, it’s very telling if you read between the lines. It is as though they can simply travel back to a previous point in time and observe it—similar to the Future Self technique which I teach.
  • Eye movement (5:10) Eyes to the right, toggling between looking upwards and looking directly right, indicating visual and auditory memories being recalled.

Another Prodigy

If you’d like to learn more about how to read people’s non-verbal behaviour to decode and replicate success, check out our online course on Persuasion and Influence.

 

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Situational Awareness – July 2016 Technique Of The Month

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Technique of the Month

—Situational Awareness—

Have you ever seen the film The Bourne Identity? For the unfamiliar, Matt Damon plays Jason Bourne, an amnesiac who slowly discovers that he is, in fact, a highly-trained CIA operative. If you’re wondering what this has to do with the technique of the month, just watch the clip below:

The skill that Bourne demonstrates in the diner—having intuitively analysed his surroundings and drawn conclusions based on that analysis—is called situational awareness. It has roots in military strategy and theory, where it often means the difference between life and death. But you don’t need to have military (or CIA) training to develop this skill, and it can be useful in everyday situations—especially in the world of business!

Testing Your Situational Awareness Take a look at the video below. Even if you think you know what to expect, watch it until the end—you may be surprised.

So, did you spot the gorilla? The transforming curtain? The departing player? This video demonstrates two important ideas in situational awareness: that focusing too narrowly on one detail can lead to making mistakes, and that you should never jump to conclusions without as much information as you can gather.

 

Situational Awareness in Business Situational awareness is vital to your success because it enables you to increase your consciousness and awareness of your environment, allowing you to hone your seventh sense: the sense of balance, which connects your inner world to the world around you. For leaders, situational awareness is the key to influencing and persuading people to get on board with you. Whether making a sales pitch, forging a new partnership, or negotiating a contract, the ability to read and judge what is going on in the room, and to act on the information that you’re receiving, will always work to your advantage.

Developing Your Situational Awareness

Though it’s a skill that almost anyone can master, developing functional situational awareness is not something you can do in a weekend. If you want to be the Jason Bourne of the boardroom, it’ll take practice, dedication, and learning to trust your intuition or “gut instinct.”

The first step is knowing what to look for and what to ignore. In any environment, there will be hundreds, if not thousands, of details screaming for your attention; your job is to tune out the information that doesn’t enhance your understanding of the environment and the people in it, and to focus on what does while remaining open to new information.

The next step is learning to establish a baseline; i.e. what is considered “normal” in a given situation. By understanding what is normal, you can free up your mind to look for details which deviate from expectation. Is the person you are meeting with unusually anxious? Does your prospective buyer keep checking their watch or phone? Learning how to spot and, more importantly, interpret and act on these signals will give you an edge in meetings, since you can adjust your own strategy to the situation at every turn.

Beginning Your Journey to Situational Awareness

You won’t become a master of situational awareness unless you start training yourself. The good news is you can train and practice anytime, anywhere—from your morning coffee run to the breakroom and even gatherings of friends and family, opportunities abound to hone your mindfulness, intuition, and sense of balance. The more you learn to observe, interpret, and act on what you see, the better your situational awareness will become!

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Ladies, Let’s Start Acting

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Hello, ladies.

I know you’re busy, so I won’t waste your time or fill up your head with nonsense you don’t need. But if you have a moment today, I’d really like you to read this, because these are important facts.

We really need to stop talking about them. We need to start acting.

Statistics show us that, on average, men are better paid, but women are better educated.

Men dominate the top jobs, at least in business, while women do most of the unpaid work and care at home.

Working women, despite having paid jobs, also bear the brunt of the housework. They devote an average of 28 hours a week to washing, cooking, lunches, carpools, solving family problems and decision-making.

Women are also the primary carers of elderly parents, with 92% cared for by daughters and 8% by sons.

Based on these numbers, you could easily assume that being a woman means doing it all.

It also means being overloaded and undervalued.

You could also assume that the feminist movement long lost momentum in a dialogue that goes something like this: While women do have an undeniable biological need to nurture, many of us tend to exclude ourselves when it comes to the list of things we actively make time to care for. As a result, our health, wellbeing and happiness can suffer.

And you know what else? This is a perpetuating story.

This is information that we hear day after day.

It rarely changes. It’s a soundtrack that keeps us believing that all of this is real.

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However, as long as we see these facts as real, we believe in these facts and we keep paying attention to these facts, guess what? We will keep unconsciously behaving in a way that sustains the story. We will keep getting these second-rate results for ourselves over and over and over again.

You know why? Because we interpret the world around us through our neurology.

But, through neurology, we can also make important changes.

We each have our own reality – the way that we look at the world around us. We each have the power to change this reality by changing the way we look at the world around us.

Each individual is responsible for his/her own experience.

Therefore, for us to create a movement and a powerful change, we women (as a collective) need to see, believe and perceive a different story.

We need to let go of our limiting beliefs and old stories.

The statistics relating to the gender gap haven’t really changed in the 50 years since we began having open discussions about equality.

I believe that the reason we haven’t made much progress is because we are not giving ourselves permission to feel truly individually empowered. If we want change, then we need to instigate change. We need to look at the situation differently and shift our mindsets.

Quite simply: If we stop believing the rhetoric, if we stop believing that we’re the “second sex” and start believing that we’re equal, then we will have made an important step in the journey towards change.

Ladies, it is time for us to rewrite the story… To start nurturing ourselves, to begin acknowledging our individual contributions to this life, honouring our own unique and special set of talents that no one else can possibly emulate.

We need to start loving ourselves and backing ourselves… and backing each other.

The moment we begin to value ourselves more, the world around us will have no choice but to follow suit. 

By altering what we are willing to accept as true, we can create change. The world around us can only treat us as the “second sex” if we let it.

What we put out, we get back. And what we perceive, we believe.

It really is as uncomplicated as this. The catch is the commitment. To create real, lasting and transformational change we need commitment. This is where we must not falter.

We will only succeed if we start today, continue tomorrow and keep going into next week and beyond, telling ourselves and each other and the world around us the new story, until it becomes the real story in our minds and in the minds of those around us.

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18 Motivational Quotes From Will Smith That Will Changed Your Life

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Will Smith has been crafting his art for many decades now. For some of you that had the opportunity to know him from his hit tv show Fresh prince of Belair to hearing his rap song to seeing him in action and sci-fi movies such as Men In Black to the upcoming suicide squad you’re probably wondering how does he mange to keep it all togheter. 

In April 2007, Newsweek called him “the most powerful actor in Hollywood”. He has been nominated for five Golden Globe Awards, two Academy Awards, and has won four Grammy Awards.

Here are 18 quotes from him that I believe can change your life. Quotes or beliefs he lives by to bring him to a level of success, achievement and authority and celebrity status in his field and life itself.

Will Smith’s Top 18 Motivational Beliefs About Life, Success
And Of Course Pursuit Of Happiness Are:

  1. “You can cry, ain’t no shame in it. “
  2. “Being realistic is the most common path to mediocrity.”
  3. “The things that have been most valuable to me I did not learn in school. “
  4. “The first step is you have to say that you can. “
  5. “The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is that I’m not afraid to DIE on a treadmill. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, but if we get on a treadmill together, there are two things: You’re getting off first or I’m gonna DIE It’s really that simple”
  6. Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people – the ones who really belong in your life – will come to you. And stay.”
  7. “There are so many people who have lived and died before you. You will never have a new problem; you’re not going to ever have a new problem. Somebody wrote the answer down in a book somewhere.
  8. “The separation of talent and skill is one of the greatest misunderstood concepts for people who are trying to excel, who have dreams, who want to do things. Talent you have naturally. Skill is only developed by hours and hours and hours of beating on your craft.
  9. You’re not the only one struggling. You’re not the only person having trouble, now or ever. Things will get better, and in the meantime, you’re in good company.
  10. “Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. You got a dream, you gotta protect it. When people can’t do something themselves, they are going to tell you that you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period.”
  11. “Never underestimate the pain of a person, because in all honesty, everyone is struggling. Some people are better at hiding it than others.”
  12. “The first step is you have to say that you can.”
  13. “If you’re not making someone else’s life better, than you are wasting your time. Your life will become better by making other people’s lives better.”
  14. “Money and success don’t change people; they merely amplify what is already there.”
  15. “We spend money that we do not have, on things we do not need, to impress people who do not care.”
  16. “Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.”
  17. “Love is the ultimate theme, but it’s not just for women.”
  18. “Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions.”

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April 2016 Newsletter

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Greetings friends,

Wow! What a month! First off I’d like to say how much we love our clients and give a big thanks for taking time out of your busy schedules to read my Newsletters each month! I’m a bit late on this month’s Newsletter, but rest assured it’s finally here! There are so many new things brewing up that I wanted to make certain you received as much valuable information as I can offer. Plus, with it being spring-cleaning season I thought I’d spice things up and bring you something totally new, fresh, and clean!

What’s new?

Are you kidding? EVERYTHING! For example, have you checked out our new website? That’s right, it’s up and running and here it is: (Its Alive image) **insert html link for website – linked to words “new website” or linked to the “image”!

Here are 21 Major Highlight of the New Website:

  1. A WORLD CLASS eLearning platform for coaching members.
  2. A completely REDESIGNED, mobile ready, look and feel.
  3. A FREE video section.
  4. A list of NEW, upcoming events with Eventbrite integration; just to make it even simpler for you to buy tickets to my upcoming events. Don’t forget to share with your friends!
  5. A FREE tools for your mind section in the post/blog section.
  6. A NEW video release section to keep your posted on the latest online courses.
  7. A SOCIAL MEDIA LOGIN. No more worrying about having to find your password or having to enter all your information every time. Simply login using your FB, Twitter, G+, Pinterest or other social login credentials. This completely new and secure login will make it faster and easier for you to have access to your profile, courses and other products.
  8. A completely REDESIGNED, visually stunning, and easy to use profile area.
  9. Your own personal wall where you can SHARE your favourite website areas with your friends…
  10. The ability to learn with others by JOINING GROUPS and SHARING trough the easy access of your inbox.
  11. Downloadable files such as PDFS and EBOOKS for your courses.
  12. A coaching platform that allows for coaching assignment completion
  13. Featured products on sale
  14. The ability to view your courses on various mobile and tablet formats (Ex: Ipad, Iphone, Android, Samsung tablet, etc.)
  15. A PROGRESS BAR for your current and future courses.
  16. On the right sidebar you’ll be able to see recommended follow up courses or similar courses that would be PERFECT FOR YOU.
  17. The ability to see who else is online, is following your program, or has bought products like you!
  18. A list of subscription based COURSES. Now you no longer have to worry about spending hundreds or even thousands of dollars, or having to wait weeks to buy the course you want to take. Simply subscribe to it via our MONTHLY PLANS and start learning and practicing IMMEDIATELY with other like-minded individuals.
  19. An expanded member’s section with SECRET CONTENT only available and visible to your specific membership level. How lucky are you?
  20. More content on our SOCIAL MEDIA. That’s right! We just hired one of the TOP GURUS to help us pick out excellent content just FOR YOU on your new membership area.
  21. Last, but not least, a LIVE CHAT capability for what’s coming next (As a magician, I can’t reveal all of my new tricks now can I?)
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Technique of the month

The Art Of Selling Yourself

The first thing you need to know about selling yourself is that you must recognize that you are not an object and that, no matter in which profession you work, you need to separate your identity from your behaviour or in this case what you call your service or product. You are a human being and as thus you cannot be sold, nor put yourself for sale. I often meet people and ask them what work they do for a living and then they start their ‘elevator pitch’ and I start telling them I simply wanted to know what you do before knowing who you are. What’s the difference you may ask? One huge difference is that The Donald, which relates his brand to him, is not a product. What he sells is the illusion of success! Buy my ties and you will project success or you will feel successful. Associate yourself to me and you will be successful. The reason this is crucial is that one of the main problems people have about “selling themselves” is the fear of rejection.

Things I have learned from The Don (AKA The Godfather)

Ok! I didn’t really learn it from him but I am sure that you’ve either heard the saying or seen the classic epic movie. I actually learned it quite young in modelling school when my teacher Cindy told me: “Just remember that if they don’t take you it has nothing to do with you. They are looking for someone that fits what they need and you either happen to have the look they are looking for or you don’t. Its not personal”. I realized early on that my self and the product are two different things. I may project my brand as my looks but whether I was or wasn’t chosen for a shoot, it was simply fun and games and I never felt, even to this day, rejected.

Why do you avoid rejection?

Probably the same reason you would avoid a bullet in the leg. It hurts. If it does not hurt then you’ve probably found a way, like I have, to cope with it and to move on. Or you simply have so much pain that you no longer care. Then, unfortunately, you might end up like the “Wolf of Wall Street”, Jordan Belford, and start hurting others like he used to.

Why does it hurt when someone says no?

It hurts because you may start to perceive yourself as flawed, not good enough, ashamed, guilty, and in some cases you may begin to think that you don’t deserve it or are unworthy. Notice I said that you may start to perceive, and not they made you feel – as if you are flawed, etc. Only you can tell yourself those things, and only you can allow yourself to be reminded of those feelings (I will talk about that later in my posts).

Top 7 Ways To ‘Sell Yourself’ #1. You must change your mindset and other people’s mindset about the words: selling and buying

I spent the first couple of paragraphs selling you on the idea that ‘selling yourself’ is easy, as well as reframing the way you thought about the subject – probably without you being fully conscious about it. This is because I used simple vocabulary, which avoids conflicting deep-rooted conviction, in a tone, which was pleasant and educational. I started gaining rapport with you by giving you some of my experience and a picture of a movie with a quote you surely heard, and probably associated to before at one time in your life. In fact, by this point in the newsletter I may also sound like Clarice from Silence of the Lamb interviewing Hannibal Lecter. Recently, during one of my last training sessions, I took about ten minutes to explain this principle to a student who later messaged me on Facebook saying:

Your insight with regards to how I’m selling ‘feelings’ in Arbonne has completely changed my perspective. After our workshop, in two days I made $800 in product sales. Thank you for your coaching and support!

Hebba –  Ottawa

#2. Recognize what you’re selling and whom you’re selling it to

Seriously, would you sell sex to a priest? If you would, then this article is probably not for you. One of the major mistakes people make is they think everyone will buy the Kool-Aid (meaning whatever you are selling) just because you are. If that’s what you’re doing then that’s probably why you are often rejected. Research your client, mate, subject etc., enough so that you are able to understand their need. Then, explain to them what you are offering in a way in which they’ll see the value it and you can bring them. That’s why gaining rapport is so important!

#3. Use the power of your voice to make others feel that they can trust you

Have you ever picked up the phone, and the person at the other end had a voice where in your head you thought “its an immigrant”, and already you start shutting off because you automatically assume its going to be a bad call for no other reason than your brain started making a judgement call simply from the tone of voice? Well, some major companies began training centers to teach people how to speak better English. Here’s a great new study regarding the power of voice, which you can also actually test yourself with in order to see how you would best vote when you hear someone. Use the power of your voice to project a sense of confidence and trustworthiness so that people will want to “buy” whatever it is you are selling.

#4. Gain Rapport

No matter what you do or what you ‘Sell’, if you don’t get this right from the start then you’re not going to second base – meaning the person, organization, or group will not allow you to go any further.

You need to gain rapport in order to establish a relationship and trust so that the one’s ‘buying’ feel confident, secure, and are able to build a trust strong enough to let you.

#5. Recognize what the person is ‘buying’, then match it

If it’s a relationship, it may be one or many of your qualities, values, looks, the way they feel around you, your voice or your strengths. In business, it maybe your expertise, your strengths, your contacts, your network, your experience, the resources you have acquired over time or etc. Find out what they want and then voice it out. Show them or simply let them know. View it as you are informing them in a way in which it helps them make a decision about a need or a preference they are seeking.

#6. Nurture your self-image. Not your negative ego

They say first impressions are very important and research backs this. When I hear people talk to me about attracting the one they love or getting the job they want and say ‘they should love me just the way I am’ I usually start laughing out loud. Now I did say nurture your image and not your ego – because that position is exactly coming from ego. The reason it does so is that it comes from a position of entitlement or of low self-expectation and self-worth. You don’t have to be a model to take care of yourself and you don’t have to dress fancy to try to impress everyone. It’s about self-respect and respecting others. ‘The Grouch’ from Sesame Street is a funny character that lives in a garbage can and that’s always grouchy but I seriously doubt he could get a full time job or a date for that matter outside of Sesame Street. Looks are important and the brain judges, as well as makes choices, and decisions no matter what you would like to believe. Style has changed over the years, but in many cultures image is everything. If you want to know how corporations are spending billions of dollars to persuade and sell you on this concept click on this link for 3 short documentaries on the subject. I guarantee you’ll be shocked. To find out more on how you can sell yourself or influence, as well as persuade others, make certain to check out this online course “NLP Influence & Persuasion IN MIND” THE UNCUT VERSION.

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#7. Use power poses

Use the power of non-verbal communication to project magnetism and trustworthiness.

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