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NLP Techniques – The Ultimate NLP Submodalities List To Reprogramming Your Brain

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One of the best ways to learn how to reprogram your brain fro a change is to learn how to consciously use what are called submodalities.. The term originally created by

Visual Submodalities

  • Angle(s)
  • Associated (seeing through your own eyes) vs. dissociated (seeing yourself in the picture)
  • Black and white vs. color
  • Border /no border
  • Brightness (bright/dim/dark)
  • Clarity (clear/dull/fuzzy)
  • Contrast
  • Depth (2D/3D/flat)
  • Distance (near or far)
  • Focus (focused or unfocused)
  • Frame or panoramic
  • Level of brightness
  • Location (left/right/top/bottom/center…)
  • Motion (still or moving, slideshow or movie)
  • Movement (stopped, slow, regular, fast, super speed)
  • Number of images viewed simultaneously
  • Panoramic vs. framed picture
  • Shape: concave, convex, square, oval, etc.
  • Sharpness of colors
  • Size (larger than life or smaller than life size)
  • Still or Dynamic
  • Style (picture, painting, poster, drawing, “real life”)

Auditory Submodalities

  • Accent
  • Amount of pauses
  • Background sound vs. the only sound
  • Cadence (interruptions vs groupings)
  • Clarity (clear or fuzzy)
  • duration (short-long)
  • Frequency (high vs. low pitch)
  • Harmony vs dissonance
  • Inflections (words marked out)
  • Intensity (intense or soft)
  • Internal vs external
  • Location (mono, stereo, surround)
  • Movement of the source
  • Pace (fast or slow)
  • phrasing
  • Pitch (high or low)
  • Progression
  • Qualities of sound (raucous, soft, windy)
  • Rhythm (regular, irregular)
  • Soft vs. rasping
  • Source of sound
  • Static vs. dynamic
  • Tempo (slow or fast)
  • Timbre (characteristic sound, quality)
  • Tonality (flat or engaging)
  • Uniqueness of sound
  • Variations: looping, fading in and out, moving location
  • Voice: whose voice, one or many
  • Volume (loud or quiet)
  •  

 

Kinesthetic Submodalities

  • Balance
  • Body position
  • Constant or Intermittent
  • Density
  • Direction (Does it have a direction? If so describe it.)
  • Eye positions
  • Facial expression
  • Form
  • Gestures
  • Intensity
  • Internal or external
  • Large Area or Small Area
  • Location (e.g. where in your body)
  • Mass – how big is it?
  • Metallic or Wooden
  • Movement
  • Movement (motion, spinning in which direction)
  • Pressure (Is there any pressure? If so, is it light or heavy?)
  • Proprioception: Somatic sensation, location, movement
  • Rhythm
  • Shape (What shape is it?)
  • Size (How big is it?)
  • Steady intermittent
  • Steady or intermittent
  • Strong or Weak
  • Tactition: pressure, texture
  • Temperature (Hot vs. cold)
  • Texture: Smooth or Rough
  • Vibration (Is it still or pulsing?)
  • Weight (Heavy vs. light)

Olfactory Submodalities

  • Camphoraceous
    (e.g. mothballs)
  • Chemical
    (e.g. ammonia, bleach)
  • Citrus
    (e.g. lemon, lime, orange)
  • Decayed
    (e.g. rotting meat, sour milk)
  • Ethereal
    (e.g. dry cleaning fluid)
  • Fragrant
    (e.g. florals and perfumes)
  • Fruity
    (all non-citrus fruits)
  • Minty and peppermint
    (e.g. eucalyptus and camphor)
  • Musky
    (e.g perfumes/aftershave)
  • Pungent
    (e.g. blue cheese, cigar smoke)
  • Putrid
    (e.g rotten eggs)
  • Sweet
    (e.g. chocolate, vanilla, caramel)
  • Toasted and nutty
    (e.g. popcorn, peanut butter, almonds)
  • Woody and resinous (e.g. pine or fresh cut grass)

Gustatory Submodalities

  • Astringency
  • Bitterness
  • Calcium
  • Coolness
  • Fat taste
  • Metallic or Wooden
  • Numbness
  • Pungency (Spiciness or hotness)
  • Saltiness
  • Savouriness
  • Sourness
  • Sweetness

Working with language patterns

Recognizing representational systems

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Visual predicates/word descriptors

  • A feast for the eye
  • A glow
  • A mental image, a mental scene, in your mind’s eye
  • Against the background of
  • Appear
  • At first glance
  • Beautiful to see
  • Blurred
  • Bright/crystal clear
  • Brilliant
  • Can you imagine that?
  • Can you picture that?
  • Can you envision that?
  • Can you visualize what I said?
  • Clarify
  • Clear overview
  • Color
  • Colorful
  • Demonstrate
  • Do you see a way to do that?
  • Drop your eye on…
  • Eye to eye
  • Focus
  • Foreseen
  • Have a clear picture
  • Have an eye for something
  • You have the Eye for those things
  • Hazing out in front
  • High regard
  •  
  • Illustrate
  • Imagination (appealing to one’s imagination)
  • In a glimpse
  • In the light of…
  • Insight
  • It is not so Black and White
  • It looks like it…
  • Keeping an eye on things
  • Let me take a look
  • Let us shine a light on this subject.
  • Lighting spot
  • Like two drops of water
  • Look, I mean…
  • Looks like a photo
  • Mental image
  • Naked eye
  • Out of sight
  • Overseeing
  • Perspective
  • Photographic memory
  • Picture me
  • Picturesque
  • Put you on the spot
  • Reflect
  • Review
  • See
  • See through
  • Seeing in a larger context
  • Seeing the bright side of things
  • Sharp
  • Shiny
  • Short-sighted
  • Show me
  • Show me what you mean. I see what you mean.
  • Sketching a rosy picture
  • Sparkling
  • Spiritual Eye
  • Take a closer look
  • That’s illustrative for…
  • The problem stares at me in the face
  • This is a new perspective on…
  • Through the eye of the needle
  • Tunnel vision
  • Turning a blind eye to something
  • Uncover
  • View
  • Visible
  • Vision
  • What a dark subject!
  • What an oasis of peace
  • What kind of …. do you see yourself doing?

Auditory predicates/word descriptors

  • A telling sign
  • Be heard
  • Calls
  • Chanting
  • Chattering
  • Describe it in detail
  • Does it tell you something?
  • Harmony
  • Hear
  • Hitting a different note
  • How does that sound to the ears?
  • I am all ears
  • I hear what you say
  • It clicks
  • Just sying
  •  
  • Keep talking
  • Like music to the ears
  • Listening
  • Loud (and clear)
  • Melody
  • Outspoken
  • Public voice
  • Questions
  • Roar
  • Said to be…
  • Say
  • Screaming
  • Shout
  • Sounds good
  • Talking to deaf ears
  • That doesn’t tell me anything
  • That is what you are saying
  • That rings a bell
  • That sounds like…
  • This is in harmony with…
  • Tuning in /tuning out
  • Unheard of!
  • Voice
  • Who sets the tone?
  • You are a chatterbox
  •  

Kinesthetic predicates/word descriptors

  • Always keep a door open
  • Applying pressure
  • Balanced
  • Clamped
  • Cold / Warm
  • Connect with
  • Creating a basis for
  • Crushing
  • Does it feels good or not?
  • Falling
  • Feel good in your skin
  • Feels good
  • Firmly
  • Get in touch with
  • Grasp (Getting a grasp on…)
  • Gripping
  • Hand in hand
  • Hard
  • Have a handle
  • Heartbreaking
  • Heartwarming
  • Heated (heated debate)
  • Hold on to
  • Hold on to that idea
  • Holding on to
  • Hooking up
  • It comes down to
  • It disappears like ice in a hot oven.
  • It feels heavy
  • It feels light
  • It feels like a warm blanket (of…)
  • Keep our spines straight.
  • Keeping your foot on the ball
  • Keeps on sticking
  • Let’s stay in touch
  • Light-footed
  • Moving
  • Moving someone around
  • Overpowered
  • Persevere
  • Pressure
  • I couldn’t put my finger on it
  • I feel that…
  • I feel what you are saying
  • I felt like I had to walk on eggs.
  • I have the feeling that
  • I need something concrete
  • Impression
  • In concrete terms
  • Insensitive
  • Pulling the strings
  • Razor sharp
  • Relaxed
  • Reverse world
  • Scraping
  • Search for trigger points
  • Sensitive
  • Slipped through your fingers
  • Slowly…
  • Soft
  • Solid
  • Stabbed me in the back
  • Stirring
  • Striking
  • Tackling the issue
  • Tangibly
  • The pressure is on
  • Throw it out
  • Touched
  • Transform to
  • Underlining on
  • Walking into something
  • Weight
  • Well-founded
  • Wet
  • Where does it create a familiar feeling for you?

 

 

 

Olfactory and gustatory predicates/word descriptors

  • Bitter sweet
  • It smells like danger
  • It was right under your nose
  • Revenge is a dish best served cold
  • Seasoning it with humor
  • Stinking clean
  • Sweet
  • That situation left me with a bad taste in my mouth
  • To my taste
  • Up to my taste
  • Very Tasteful
  •  

 

 


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How to Conquer Your Fear of Public Speaking

by Alain Jean-Baptiste Comments Off on How to Conquer Your Fear of Public Speaking

Are you terrified of public speaking? Read below to find out how to overcome and conquer your fear of public speaking to win over any audience.

More people are terrified of public speaking than natural disasters, aging, loneliness, violent attacks, or even death. The latest findings from that 74% of people suffer from fear of public speaking (Glossophobia).

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74% of people suffer from fear of public speaking

The good news is that people have been studying and refining public speaking skills now for over 2,500 years. There are specific tools and methods you can implement to overcome your fear of public speaking and shine as a confident leader on the stage.

While the fear of public speaking is a top fear that many people experience, public speaking is one of the most important skills you can develop to achieve success. Good presenters connect with others to have an impact that influences the behavior and actions of their audience.

Basically, public speaking is one of the most powerful ways you can reach and inspire action in others yet to the average person, the idea of public speaking is worse than the idea of dying

The good news is that people have been studying and refining public speaking skills now for over 2,500 years. There are specific tools and methods you can implement to overcome your fear of public speaking and shine as a confident leader on the stage.

What is Fear?

For the most part, fear is an important and useful tool for survival.

We are all hard-wired with triggered fear responses to protect ourselves from danger. For example, if a tiger is hunting you down, your fear serves to help you act quickly to flee and find safety. In this imminent danger scenario, your mind and body’s built-in responses to

Even in the case of public speaking, a small dose of fear can help you stay on topic and sharpen your mind to deliver an amazing performance, so long as you know how to control your fear response using your conscious mind.

This is because when you experience fear, your mind and body gain the benefits of protective mechanisms to ensure your survival, much like the mother who lifts a car over her head to save her trapped child (known as hysterical strength).

The real downside of fear is when it escalates beyond your conscious control and starts to shape your thoughts, behavior and actions in limiting and self-destructive ways.

Fear of public speaking can become a major roadblock to success in your career. This fear limits your ability to persuade and influence others and your ability to stand apart from the competition. A fear of public speaking holds you back from being able to reach a greater number of people and build trust.

The greatest leaders throughout human history are great orators because they have this ability to reach massive numbers of people with a persuasive message that influences others and inspires action.

And let’s face it, since roughly a third of the population would rather be dead than give a presentation, it’s safe to say that developing your public speaking skills will help you stand apart from the crowd and achieve great things.

The secret to conquering your fear of public speaking is to understand the process of fear that occurs in your mind and body so you can limit the influence of the fear and harness the benefits.

How to Face Your Fear of Public Speaking

Fear is a protective response to danger.

Even though public speaking does not entail an imminent threat of danger, your mind has identified public speaking as a learned threat and that same auto-response of fear is triggered as though a tiger is charging at you.

When you experience fear, your unconscious mind triggers auto-responses to help protect you from danger. 

  • Your body releases adrenaline and cortisol that can cause one or more of the following biological responses:

    • Rapid heart rate
    • Increased blood pressure
    • Muscle tightening
    • Sharpened or redirected senses
    • Dilation of the pupils (to let in more light)
    • Increased sweating
    • Hysterical strength
    • Heightened perception of time (time slows down)

See how I help this woman lose her fear of public speaking
under 12 minutes

These biological symptoms are part of your unconscious built-in response to fear based on your perception of a threat. You cannot control your unconscious built-in response to fear, however, you can control your conscious response to fear.

When you experience fear, remember that your unconscious mind has picked up on the perception of danger and triggers reactions to protect you. Often, escalated levels of fear that hinder your desired functioning occur because your conscious mind becomes panicked by the biological symptoms of fear that you cannot control.

If your conscious mind is busy worrying about biological symptoms that are triggered by the feeling of fear, then your fear continues to grow and grow to become a hindrance that stops you from acting the way you want to – such as being a confident speaker that captivates the audience during your presentation. When you experience an escalated fear of public speaking, direct your conscious mind to acknowledge how the built-in response to fear operates and logically consider the danger involved in the situation you are facing to gain control of your fear.

Remember, the built-in biological responses that are triggered when you experience fear can be a good thing, these are a powerful protective mechanism for your survival. Fear only becomes a hindrance if your conscious mind panics.

The good news is that as you practice conscious acknowledgment of your fear and the biological symptoms of fear, you form a habit that enables you to retain more and more control in the face of fear in any situation.

Practice conscious control by following these 5 simple steps.

 

5 Steps to Overcome Fear of Public Speaking

Step 1: Understand that you are experiencing a built-in biological reaction to fear.

Remember that fear is a useful tool to help you survive. Your mind and body will get a danger alert to help you remain safe. Your conscious mind is still in control so long as you acknowledge the fear and how you will use it.

Step 2: Acknowledge that you are experiencing auto-triggered biological responses that are intended to give you protective benefits

It’s normal to feel pressure and increased stress when you experience fear. Do not panic when you start to feel these symptoms of increased sweating, rapid heart rate, tightening of muscles or otherwise. Remind yourself that this is part of the protective mechanism of fear that can help you stay focused throughout your presentation.

Step 3: Assess your fear level to judge whether you can cope with the fear or if the fear is too high. If the fear is too high, be sure to check out the video below for hands-on methods that will help you reduce this level of fear.

Take a few deep breaths and honestly assess how afraid you really are. Focus on going through the conscious process of assessing the stakes involved to address any disproportions to your perception of danger involved.

Step 4: Understand what is happening in your mind.

Fear is a reaction to your perception of danger. If you are feeling an escalated fear of public speaking, understand that your conscious mind has the power to overcome this through self-development, coaching and practice. The worst thing you can do is give into the fear because that reinforces an on-going cycle. Instead, face your fear with preparedness and start with small presentations.

Step 5: Practice public speaking in a safe place with a group of supportive friends.

Practice makes perfect! The best way to face and overcome an escalated fear of public speaking and to deliver a more confident performance is to practice in a “laboratory”. This gives you the opportunity to practice giving presentations and lowers the stakes so you can practice managing that fear in a less threatening environment.

Use the handy infographic below to walk yourself through these 5 steps whenever you are hit with that fear of public speaking.

How to Overcome Public Speaking Fear Infographic
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Conquer Your Fear of Public Speaking

Now that you are consciously aware of how fear works, what you control and what you do not control, it’s time to implement action steps.

Despite your fear and the biological effects of that fear on your mind and body, you do have the ability to deliver amazing public speaking – all it takes is a conscious effort.

For example, watch in the video below where I walked a woman with stage freight through conscious exercises overcome a lifelong fear of public speaking in just 11 minutes.

The key exercises to take away from this powerful example is how to consciously unpack the fear that you experience. Use your “thinking” mind (a.k.a. your conscious mind) to deconstruct your fear and bring it back down to a manageable and useful tool instead of an escalated hindrance.

Most importantly, remember your motivations for developing public speaking skills.

In the video above, “Leonore from Montreal” works as a nurse and has delivered presentations designed to help people be healthy – a noble and worthy reason for a presentation that most audiences would want to hear – however she didn’t acknowledge this when she would give presentations. Instead, when she would give presentations for work, she would just try to “get through”.

 

“Getting through” is only one small and initial component of getting over your fear of public speaking. The ultimate goal is to become a great speaker so you can truly connect with your audience and win the room. You do this by acknowledging that your audience wants to hear what you have to say because you’re offering useful and helpful information. Once Leonore understood that the audience did want to hear what she had to say, and that her presentations help people, she was able to manage her fear and be confident on the stage.

Fear makes you focus on how you feel, but great public speakers focus on how the audience feels.

 

Here are a 4 tips for a superior public speaking presentation:

  1. Practice: Don’t wing it when you are already coping with fear of public speaking because you won’t gain the benefit of heightened focus that accompanies your trigger response to fear. Instead, practice your presentation in front of others so you are well prepared.
  2. Speak from the heart: Keep your language simple, speak with honesty and be as clear as possible. When you are truly passionate and want to help others, you will connect with your audience and make an impact.
  3. Embrace the positive elements of fear: Use your conscious mind to maintain control of your fear so you gain the benefit of small doses of fear before a presentation – like heightened focus.
  4. Maintain good posture and regular breathing: Even though you cannot control your unconscious trigger response to fear, your conscious mind does have the power to regain control. If you focus on maintaining your breathing level and keeping your posture straight, your conscious mind will send signals to your unconscious mind that help to reduce feelings of fear AND make you more confident. Win-Win.

Speak from the heart: Keep your language simple, speak with honesty and be as clear as possible. When you are truly passionate and want to help others, you will connect with your audience and make an impact.

Speak from the heart: Keep your language simple, speak with honesty and be as clear as possible. When you are truly passionate and want to help others, you will connect with your audience and make an impact.

Embrace the positive elements of fear: Use your conscious mind to maintain control of your fear so you gain the benefit of small doses of fear before a presentation – like heightened focus.

Maintain good posture and regular breathing: Even though you cannot control your unconscious trigger response to fear, your conscious mind does have the power to regain control. If you focus on maintaining your breathing level and keeping your posture straight, your conscious mind will send signals to your unconscious mind that help to reduce feelings of fear AND make you more confident. Win-Win.

Be sure to give yourself plenty of time and space to practice becoming a great public speaker. Great public speaking skills are highly coveted as they are the hallmark of all great leaders and influencers.

Your public speaking skills will continue to develop and grow as you consciously face your fears and implement action steps to conquer those fears until one day, your fear of public speaking melts away and you find yourself perfectly confident and calm speaking to a crowd. And that is when the fun begins.

You can find out more about how to become a great public speaker here. (*this is to link to other blog in series)

In the meantime, review the steps to regain conscious control when you experience fear of public speaking and take action steps to prepare and practice giving presentations.

There are only about 25% of people who are brave enough to tackle public speaking so take heart, just by reading this and looking for solutions you are already ahead of the pack.

Remember, practice makes perfect. Keep at it and you will conquer your fear of public speaking.

Do you struggle with fear of public speaking?Tell us what you think of the steps in this article and any advice, comments or questions you have below to contribute to the discussion.

 

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September 2016 Newsletter – Technique Of The Month – Superior Autobiographical Memory –

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Recently, I was faced with a challenge. Every month I strive to bring you a great new technique to enhance your daily lives, but this month I was stuck. Being September, my mind went to back-to-school topics such as organizational techniques and time management. But the truth is, I’ve done those before. What could I offer that would truly be helpful? That would have substance?

While I tried to puzzle this out, I was facing another challenge entirely. I have a lot of projects on the go—including my new book, Lead Intuitively, as well as plenty of travelling abroad—and I was slowly starting to lose my mind—or rather, my memory. Things were slipping my mind and I had to refocus myself on remembering important details. And then came a “eureka!” moment: that both of these challenges had the same solution.

The Technique of the Month

Superior Autobiographical Memory

Your memory is a powerful thing, not to be taken for granted. It is a fundamental tool vital in your daily life, whether personal or professional. And one of the latest marvels of the brain to be discovered is that some people can harness their memories in vivid detail, even years later. This skill is called Superior Autobiographical Memory. Below is a video interview with a woman who possesses this astounding ability; here are a few things to keep in mind as you watch.

Anatomy of Excellence

I thought that this month, I would begin to reveal to you some of my Jedi mind tricks—starting with how to slow down time. One question I’m often asked is, “How are you able to read people so quickly?” Well, it’s easier than it looks. I’ll teach you how to dissect, analyze, evaluate, and read people on a deep level without the use of intuitive abilities.

Take a Deep Breath and Relax Your Mind

Many years ago, a friend of mine—an experienced military sniper—taught me that the first step to slowing down time is to control your breathing. Don’t worry! This technique has nothing to do with shooting a gun. Being a sniper means so much more than that—it’s about being able to read a situation, understand body language, and make split second judgements based on your observations. These skills are just as vital in business and in life, and the key to mastering them is controlling your perception of how time passes. By controlling your breathing, calming your mind, and focusing on behavioural patterns and non-verbal cues, you can read between the lines in an instant.

Before watching the below video, take as much time as you need to relax your mind. See what you can read from the interview about how these remarkable people are able to perfectly recall events that happened decades before. I’ve included a few of my own notes below for you to compare against your own findings.

My notes:

  • Syntax (1:10) “I can feel it,” i.e. she is manifesting memories that feel as real as when they happened.
  • Eye movement (1:12) After saying “I can feel it,” her eye goes down to the right—a gesture associated with recalling memories.
  • Mannerism and eye movement (1:44) Look at her pupils and see how stares into thin air, coming into focus on the specific date that she’s been provided as though she can see it in front of her.
  • Sequence (1:45- 2:00) Look at her hand gestures as she describes the sequence she uses to organize the dates and events in her mind.
  • “I just see it, it’s just there” (4:29) Although the doctor being interviewed calls this an unsatisfactory response, it’s very telling if you read between the lines. It is as though they can simply travel back to a previous point in time and observe it—similar to the Future Self technique which I teach.
  • Eye movement (5:10) Eyes to the right, toggling between looking upwards and looking directly right, indicating visual and auditory memories being recalled.

Another Prodigy

If you’d like to learn more about how to read people’s non-verbal behaviour to decode and replicate success, check out our online course on Persuasion and Influence.

 

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